Critics, Haters, Voyeurs

Jeff Bezos had some great advice on critics, haters, and voyeurs who cover him and other tech luminaries:

I would say that as a public figure, the best defense to speech that you don’t like about yourself as a public figure is to develop a thick skin, because you can’t stop criticism. You are going to get it. If you’re doing anything interesting in the world, you are going to have critics. You can’t stop it. Move forward. It’s not worth losing any sleep over.

That is so good and I agree completely with it. When I find stuff written publicly about me that is hateful, spiteful, jealous, and/or mean, I often favorite it. I share it sometimes with my kids. We laugh about it.

I’m not saying I’m in Jeff’s league, or anyone else’s either. I am just saying that I have experienced this stuff personally. It can be painful if you let it be. But you don’t have to. You can laugh it off. And you should.

As Jeff said, there are many more important things to be thinking about, sleeping on, and obsessing over.

#life lessons

Comments (Archived):

  1. jason wright

    it is human to feel a little bit hurt by unfair criticism. crocodiles have thick skins.

    1. fredwilson

      maybe it is fair???

      1. jason wright

        has something happened that you might be willing to share here?- guard against becoming ‘hard’.

        1. fredwilson

          i am just saying that criticism doesn’t have to be unfair to hurt. it could be fair and hurt.

          1. jason wright

            i would say they are different kinds of hurt.

          2. pointsnfigures


  2. awaldstein

    Morning FredI’ve become a true believer in the early work of Brene Brown–yup me!–whose basic premise is that vulnerability is the key to most everything.…To creativity, leadership, friendship and love.If you can’t embrace it you simply are not plumbing who you are. If you don’t tap it you will always have a wall between what you need to plumb and your ability to move forward in spite of the haters and asses out there.It stings–even at my minor level btw–but I can handle it cause its what I truly think or feel or believe.If I can discover that then screw those who are trying to define themselves by what they don’t believe in. That’s a true sign of weakness.I’d rather embrace a process for discovery and be wrong as long as i’m sometimes right in a real way.

    1. fredwilson

      sounds like Jerry Colonna

      1. awaldstein

        Yes it does and it is making me go back and reengage with his work.The world needs a less gender specific role model as this is not a gender unique issue obviously.

    2. pointsnfigures

      I saw that a few years ago. I empathize and agree with her.

  3. LIAD


    1. fredwilson

      that’s so good.

      1. pointsnfigures

        I love Churchill. Talk about being a singular voice against the herd. He saved Western Civilization. So many great quotes. “Always keep champagne cold in the fridge. In victory you deserve it, in defeat you need it.”

        1. Tom Hughes

          And: “When you’re going through hell, keep going.”

          1. pointsnfigures

            Yes! and Lady Astor:“Winston, if I were your wife I’d put poison in your coffee.”Winston Churchill: “Nancy, if I were your husband I’d drink it.”

          2. sigmaalgebra

            Beautiful! Suspicions confirmed: The feminists weren’t the first nasty women. Instead, nasty women go way back!Nasty women are like weeds in a good garden — they are always a threat. Same as in a garden — when see one, pull it out by the roots and toss it on the compost pile! Took me a while to learn that lesson, but I won’t forget it now!But, not all women are nasty. Some are just terrific, and if get one of those then have one of the crucial pillars of the best in life.

      2. JamesHRH

        On negotiation – ‘Never talk to the monkey, when the organ grinder is in the room.’

        1. LE

          However the monkey is often the key in many cases of negotiation and getting things done. Often more important that the organ grinder. Each situation is different.

    2. William Mougayar

      Exactly . I was looking for these quotes.

    3. sigmaalgebra

      No: If you don’t have enemies, then that means that you have NOT “stood up for something, sometime in your life”. Sorry, Winny, not the same thing. That is, it’s easy enough to have enemies without standing up for something!

  4. CerterisParibus

    “seek revenge, and you shall dig two graves. One for yourself..” Bezos”“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Confucious

    1. fredwilson

      wise words

  5. D Young

    I think my soon to be written, “A Kardashian’s Guide To Handling Social Media Shade & Lemonade,” says it best…Love the haters as you love the fans. They legitimately are Yin and Yang, eventually serving an equal purpose the more public your persona becomes.

  6. JimHirshfield


  7. James Ferguson @kWIQly

    Can you stay sensitive – in order to learn, while having a thick skin – in order to survive?Yes – IMHO but you need to be able to distinguish critiques and false friendsKipling said it magnificently in IFIf you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting tooIf you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:etc …But make allowance for their doubting too; <—- Humility in leadership helps herePS bet @JLM loves this post !

    1. JLM

      .Rudyard nailed it. Nailed. It.And, by association, you, too.JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…

      1. James Ferguson @kWIQly

        TY – Just my little contribution for the day 🙂

        1. JLM

          .Little? Huuuuuuuuuuuuuge!Rudyard is a core inspiration in my pathetic little life.JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…

          1. James Ferguson @kWIQly

            OK – Now your fishing /’

          2. LE

            I’d actually like to know more about that.

          3. Lawrence Brass

            Humans with little lives don’t fly planes, Sir.

    2. Twain Twain

      Another piece of Kipling brilliance: there are no borders between us, only imagined ones.

      1. James Ferguson @kWIQly

        So where does the Twain meet 🙂 ?And some idiots think this guy was a racist – reminds me of another Twain

        1. Twain Twain

          The Twain meets where there’s love in the head, heart and soul.

          1. James Ferguson @kWIQly

            Ethereal – but none-the-less true ! – Have a good one !

        2. Twain Twain

          Here’s wisdom from the other Twain.

  8. William Mougayar

    Totally agreed. I’ve recently been criticized about my book by 2 haters, and I know who they are, as they wrote 2 negative reviews on Amazon. I’m not responding, but I pity them for their smallness, and I’m reminded of this:”When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.”Earl Nightingale

    1. awaldstein

      Do you really ‘pity them”?That doesn’t work for me personally at least as for every hater i have there is always something that touches me and hurts.If you create something unique like your books there are bound to be people who don’t like them. So be it and move on.

      1. William Mougayar

        You’re right , I shouldn’t. They are mean spirited.

        1. awaldstein

          Just read the reviews and while unnecessary, they were obviously mad enough to put in the time.So be it. People liked your book as did I, that is what matters.

        2. WA

          You ever notice they don’t build a lot of statues of critics? But experts write books…

          1. William Mougayar

            I like that 🙂

      2. sigmaalgebra

        Music critics: “The words without the music.” — J. Heifetz

    2. Richard

      “You people need people like me, so you can point your fingers and say that’s the bad guy” Tony Montana (Al Pacino) (who may just be Fred Wilson)

  9. WA

    …no one ever kicks a dead dog. Caveat: we are extreme dog lovers and owners so sorry about the visuals folks.

  10. JimHirshfield

    Kinda looks like you (I don’t mean that in a hateful or critical way; love ya, beybey)…

  11. Asim Aslam

    “You can laugh it off. And you should.”Reminds me of when we’re kids and get bullied in that subtle way. People make off hand comments about you in a group to seem cool in front of everyone else. You laugh along because you don’t want to seem affected and want to feel like you’re also part of the group.To all the childhood bullies who then go on to do the same thing as adults, all I can say is…Karma’s a bitch.

  12. kevando

    Did he say this before or after he bought the Washington Post?

  13. Tom Labus

    and then there’s always the graceful and elegant Trump approach.

  14. Mac

    Fame is fleeting. In the meantime, avoid stepping in all the crap.

  15. William Mougayar

    I like your choice of word in “Voyeurs”. I might have added, Amateurs. Amateurs often critique the professionals, as if they know better.

    1. Redwoods

      But who gets to say who is a professional? Most entrepreneurs are amateurs…. until they have done it long enough, or succeeded big enough – but who is to say where that line is.

      1. William Mougayar

        That’s OK and I wasn’t thinking of entrepreneurs, but rather referring to cases where people without (or with less) experience critique others who have been good at their profession for a while.

    2. PhilipSugar

      Truer words could not be said.

  16. Devrin Carlson-Smith

    Here, here. May we all be so fortunate as to be targets of un/worthy attention.

  17. Matt Zagaja

    Criticism from a place of love is a valuable thing. Criticism from haters is useless crap. The problem is when your shields from the latter protect you too much from the former. Having worked with public figures I think it is nothing short of extraordinary what they deal with and still manage to be people. I don’t think many, if not most, people are really cut out to have to deal with it. The harassment, death threats, and haterade that is lobbed at our public figures is an indictment upon a community that has failed to give its citizens the tools to empathize and succeed with others.As a society we’ve made it easy to write people off. An entire segment of our society has written off Trump and his supporters as bigots. We have decided it is ok to let them suffer in poverty and ignorance because of their intolerance. And make no mistake, they are suffering, mostly as because of the leaders they elected who declined to do things like expand Medicaid in their states. It is difficult to empathize with the haters, but there is so much to learn by doing it. Love trumps hate.

  18. kenberger

    Unrelated, but here is Brad and Ciaran on stage in Berlin right now !

    1. William Mougayar

      are they sitting on painted barrels 🙂

      1. kenberger

        Yes. Am I missing a significance there?

        1. JLM

          .Not unless you hear polka music.JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…

        2. William Mougayar

          I don’t know. Ask Ciaran 😉

    2. jason wright

      is there a stream of this event, or recordings now available?

      1. kenberger

        The whole thing will be available sometime.

  19. Krista Bradford

    I recall going on a date as a weekend news anchor and waking up the next day to find it splashed over the gossip page in the Boston Herald. My date had phoned it in. Gotta love that. To your point: Liberace learned to laugh “all the way to the bank”. Success is the best reward. I do think there is a difference in the kind of criticism one fields. If the haters go after your work, it is one thing. Fair play. If they go after your family, it is quite another. That’s where it runs off the rails.

  20. Perry Chance

    ATTN: Peter Thiel can learn a thing or two from this post. Nice one Mr. Wilson. Even though we make fun of you at the office, I always tell me team I have tons of respect for you [serious].

  21. Mario Cantin

    The human gamut ranges from hero to sicko — you just can’t please everyone. One end of the spectrum is happy for your success while the other is only happy if you fail.

  22. pointsnfigures

    I do think it depends-you can’t let it get under your skin but if someone accuses you of something that has no basis in truth it’s okay to aggressively get the truth out there.

  23. dan_malven

    Favoriting it is like Jimmy Kimmel’s mean tweets: celebrities reading out loud the mean tweets about themselves. Hilarious stuff and hammers home the pettiness if it all

    1. LE

      Entertainment wise what I’d do is invite some of the haters to the studio audience. Juxtapose the mean tweet against the reaction of actually meeting the celebrity. That would make some interesting TV. My guess is that all of the bad would drain away from the drive by attacks. Maybe a hug and an apology at the end. Then the celebrity says “ok let’s have dinner tomorrow night, just you and me”. The nobody says “yeah great” with a big smile. The celebrity then says “no fucking way loser” or something like that. Everybody laughs. On to next segment.

      1. PhilipSugar

        You’d have to get the haters to show up. True haters, love to hide behind anonymity.

        1. LE

          Haters would show up (although the idea was an ambush but that’s beside the point) because they gain cred by being in the ring. Probably a boxing analogy for that I am sure.People do self serving things when their bread is being buttered. Did you see all of the vets standing behind Trump as he waged war with the press yesterday? Nobody said anything at all obviously. And most likely never will. They are benefiting personally and it blocks out any disgust they might have with him or the words he used. People are totally predictable in that way. So is the media who is enjoying record profitability in this election year directly as a consequence of the man they accurately in at least some ways vilify.

    2. PhilipSugar

      Those are great. Just shows you how mean people can be when they are anonymous. Notice none of those twitter names are true names like yours and mine.

    3. fredwilson


  24. OurielOhayon

    100% agreed. it s just so hard to keep it cool. but it s a muscle trainng

  25. kirklove

    “I just didn’t understand, the ricochet is the second part”…

  26. iggyfanlo

    If you’re not doing something important, then some people will be fighting you

  27. JaredMermey

    Being able to listen to the critics, digest their comments, give it an honest thought to see if they have a point then either (1) evolve or (2) forget is a hard thing to do. Tossing critics’ commentary to the side immediately is not thick skin. Only after one can appreciate dissent has s/he developed thick skin.(Sometimes forgetting/tossing to the side quickly is the right thing to do. But that is only after giving it a *really quick* thought)

  28. JLM

    .In the end, there is really only one test. Can you say this and mean it?”I did the best I could with what I had.”If you can say that then no critic can touch you. They can rail at you but their words will bounce off because you know you “did the best you could with what you had.”JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…

  29. JLM

    .In the real world, the one in which we are not so damn sensitive about EVERYTHING, one should not hide from criticism, one should seek it.We should not care about WHAT our critics say; we should care about WHY they say what they say.When you are young, this is a difficult pill to swallow as it requires you to expose yourself and we are all enmeshed in this sensitivity, vulnerability nonsense. Let it go.Seek criticism because only by testing yourself or your ideas can you find out their weaknesses. When you identify your weaknesses, fix them.When ideas wrestle, better ideas are the result.There is also a raw “intelligence” element to this logic. Know what your greatest critics think about you, your ideas, your company, your philosophy of life. You cannot grow listening to your Momma tell you how great you are.Life is not fair. Abandon that notion and yardstick. In Texas, they say, “You want fair? Go to Dallas in September.”The Texas State Fair — Big Tex and the Texas Longhorns v the Oklahoma Sooners, Red River Shootout — is in September in Dallas at Fair Park. Get it? Texas State Fair at Fair Park.It’s going to be fine. In ten years, you won’t even remember your critics’ names. In twenty, you won’t even remember why you GAS in the first place.Add to your vocabulary, two special words: “Fuck off!”Trust me, this will do wonders for you. Get the XXXXXL bottle of Fuck Off, on sale at Amazon if you can.JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…

  30. Collin

    This reminds me of my favorite quote. When I was ten and my father was dying of cancer, he wrote me a letter with some final words of wisdom to help me on my journey into adulthood, and one of the things that has always stuck with me is a quote from Teddy Roosevelt, which is relevant here.”It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

    1. James Ferguson @kWIQly

      Wow – not seen that one before – its a keeper !”who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat”That’s what I said in so many words when my father (also dyng of cancer) said – “are you sure you want to run a company (he had been up and down o a few times on that rollercoaster”At the end of the day – win or lose – you get to play ! Though that hurts too !

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    2. fredwilson

      Losing a dad at ten must have been hard. On him too

  31. Elizabeth Spiers

    I wonder if this is more intuitive to you than to some of your West Coast counterparts because you live in a media town. I can’t think of any NYC VCs who would go full Peter Thiel on a person or institution they didn’t like, and I think some of that has to do with being in New York where you can’t stay cloistered because your industry isn’t the only game in town.

  32. karen_e

    Love reading everyone’s individual responses on how to laugh it off, get on with other things, etc. I have been struggling this year with a difficult, critical client. I will come back to this thread when I need a reminder to brush it all off!

  33. John Pepper

    I used to retweet hate comments… it led to super great engagement between haters and supporters and I could stand back and learn a ton about our business (and myself!)

  34. StokeMoocher

    good advice for Peter Thiel.

  35. JasonRaznick

    Thanks for sharing.

  36. LE

    That is so good and I agree completely with it. When I find stuff written publicly about me that is hateful, spiteful, jealous, and/or mean, I often favorite it. I share it sometimes with my kids. We laugh about it.That’s a great strategy. Similar to the way in a trial an attorney tries to diffuse by getting out bad news first. And/or controlling your own PR by announcing things in advance of someone else. Better they hear it from you then read it.I remember a long long time ago as a kid when car magazines (which I read back then) used to publish hateful comments along with humorous interjected commentary completely turning the tables on the person making the comment.

  37. sigmaalgebra

    Be a Public Person?Yup, there are some possibly high costs in being a public person.My brother’s family asked if I have a blog. Nope, on the Internet I’m anonymous. I want to be free to type with my fingers without fear of someone in the middle of the night throwing black yucky stuff against the white vinyl siding of my house.I don’t have the problems of Trump, Bezos, or Fred, but I’m trying to get my startup to work, and if it does then I will likely be a public person whether I want to be or not. I don’t want to be a public person, but if I do become one then I want to delay it.Apparently Facebook and Linkedin keep pinging their users to post more of their personal information. Gads. Give away personal information so that Zuck and Hoffman can get richer? No thanks.Right, Zuck and Hoffman are public persons, and apparently now at least Zuck is encountering some of the cost — IIRC he bought some of the houses surrounding his with the intention of just having a ring of security or some such.The Immigration Law FightsIt has appeared that Zuck is a strong proponent of the US ignoring its laws on immigration and bought Senator Rubio to promote Zuck’s views.IMHO, we are having a big political fight about enforcing our immigration laws; the fight is going to get worse for at least the next year or two; and in the end we will enforce all or nearly all of our immigration laws.For a detailed point, IIRC, Zuck likes the H1-B immigrant system, but Senator Sessions doesn’t, and now Sessions is one of the most important politicians supporting Trump. Sooooooo, likely Trump will slow down the H1-B system. Sooooo, over the next year or two, Zuck stands to be in a hot political fight he will lose.Then, Zuck needs this political fight? I think he’d be much smarter and better off keeping his head down, paying attention just to business more narrowly, and spending time with his family.Trump As a Public PersonTrump as a public person? Apparently he’s good at it, really good at it; in business apparently it helped him make a lot of money; in politics it has apparently strongly helped put him in the center stage position of the debates from the first one to the last one (except possibly for the one he skipped); and, of course, it helped him get the 1,239 or so delegates he now has with five more states to vote, with a total of172 + 27 + 51 + 24 + 29 = 303delegates, with Trump as the only one on the ballot still running — details athttp://www.realclearpolitic…So, Trump may get 250+ of the 303 and then have on the first ballot 200+ more committed delegates than he needs for 1,237 and the nomination but, also, also on the first ballot, from the many uncommitted delegates maybe 200 more for 400 or so more delegates than he needs.Not bad for a first effort at politics. Sure, we’d expect more from experienced politicians, governors and US senators. But, it was because Trump spent so much money? Oops, he spent much less, $100+ million less, than some of the experienced politicians he beat.Not bad. He’s good at it.Trump TacticsLet’s see: IMHO, as a public person, Trump has long seen the media have fun dumping on him. Well, the mainstream media (MSM) likes to dump on politicians and, of course, someone as politically incorrect, etc. as Trump. And Trump sees that the media can help him or hurt him.Clearly from plenty of examples from history, the media can, even with only largely just cooked up nonsense, knock a politician out of a race; in principle the media could knock Trump out of the race. They could do that with Obama and Hillary, but they are mostly so liberal they won’t, but they would just love to knock Trump out of the race and rub their hands with glee as they did it.Discredit the MediaSo, IMHO Trump has known that, basically to have a real campaign at all, he has to discredit the media, e.g., preemptively attack, that is, let voters know that what they get about Trump from the newsies is likely totally made up, cooked up, deliberately dishonest, distorted, deceptive, disgusting, destructive raw sewage. And that’s all true for all the politicians the newsies don’t like. And for politicians the newsies do like, their work is just as dishonest.So, IMHO, Trump has worked to discredit the newsies: E.g., commonly at his rallies, at maybe nearly all of them, one of his main points has been that the media, “not all of them”, are disgusting liars, the worst liars he knows, etc.[I fully agree with him and have been cursing the newsies long before I heard about Trump, saying that the newsies and their sewage for information were the worst problem facing our country.]He also enforces some discipline on the media, some specific outlets, and some specific media personalities: He can deny them interviews and, thus, cost them a lot of ad revenue. And he keeps calling the media disgusting liars.The VA FundsSo, then back in January or somewhere, at the speech he gave for some veterans instead of attending one of the debates, apparently he had a bright idea to raise some money for the veterans. In minutes he had pledges of $1+ million. He pledged $1+, and soon had several pledges of $1 million each and a total of $5.6 million.Likely since then he had some of his staff working out how to handle the funds, the process of making the donations, looking for promising organizations to make donations to, and vetting the organizations. Done well, that could take a lot of time and work. Gee, the work could be worse than a seed stage venture firm investing $5.6 million in chunks of about $200,000 each, that is, about 28 investments. Besides, a venture firm has all the paper work and process in place, and maybe Trump didn’t.Let Four Months PassThen about four months went by. Hmm …. Then some nasty newsies, like reptiles smelling raw meat, thought that they were about to have a really big, career building, newsie scoop writing that Trump has yet to give away the money and, actually, hasn’t even made his $1 million donation yet. Hint: Trump’s effort was a scam, just a publicity scam.Close Trap — Eviscerate NewsiesOf course, as usual, the newsies didn’t have any solid information and were about as smart as one of the least bright reptiles, inebriated, being lured into a trap, which apparently they were. So, yesterday at a news conference at Trump Tower, Trump closed the trap and eviscerated the newsies for accusing him of doing something wrong.Dirty NewsiesThe newsies are dirt bags, just flatly refuse to follow even common high school term paper writing standards on quotes, primary sources, and precise references. Simple stuff. Instead they quote out of context, distort, omit references, etc.Newsie Example — McCainE.g., so far I may have read/heard 100+ newsie reports about what Trump said about McCain, but so far I have yet to see even one such that gets a grade higher than F.Here is a little of what ACTUALLY happened:First, as at…on Saturday, July 11, 2015, Trump held a campaign rally at Phoenix, AZ.Then the same day there was:Dan Nowicki, “Donald Trump to Phoenix: ‘Don’t worry, we’ll take our country back'”, The Republic, 9:16 p.m. MST July 11, 2015.at…with in part: Donald Trump, the billionaire Republican presidential candidate, on Saturday took his anti-illegal-immigration message to Phoenix, delivering a 70-minute speech to a packed downtown ballroom that at times seemed more about needling his White House rivals and settling scores with his critics than public policy.Trump’s at times undisciplined afternoon remarks at the Phoenix Convention Center veered into international trade, national security and foreign policy but always returned to the topic that has his candidacy climbing the polls: immigrants who commit violent crimes while in the United States without authorization. Then on Monday, July 13, 2015, in his Senate office McCain said to reporter Ryan Lizza about Trump’s speech Phoenix: It’s very bad, …This performance with our friend out in Phoenix is very hurtful to me, …Because what he did was he fired up the crazies.with details inRyan Lizza, “John McCain Has a Few Things to Say About Donald Trump”, The New Yorker, July 16, 2015.at…Then on Saturday, July 18, 2015, at the 2015 Family Leadership Summit at Ames, Iowa, Frank Luntz interviewed Trump. The video of the interview and a transcript are at…with in part Donald TrumpSo he insulted me and he insulted everybody in that room. I said, somebody should run against John McCain who has been, in my opinion, not so hot….Donald Trump(LAUGHTER)Donald TrumpBut, Frank — Frank, let me get to him.Frank I. LuntzHe is a war hero, he’s a war hero.Donald TrumpHe hit me — he’s not a war hero.Frank I. LuntzFive and a half years…Donald TrumpHe’s a war hero because he was captured. I like people that weren’t captured, OK? I hate to tell you.Donald Trump(CROSSTALK)Donald TrumpHe was a war hero because he was captured, OK? And I believe — perhaps he is a war hero, but right now, he said some very bad things about a lot of…Donald TrumpAnd he was upset, I said, for what? For telling the truth? See, you’re not you’re supposed to say that somebody graduated last, or second to last… So, yes, (A) Trump gave a speech in Phoenix, (B) Right away McCain hit at Trump with his “fired up the crazies”, (C) with Luntz Trump hit back at McCain, (D) Luntz defended McCain by saying twice “He’s a war hero”.Trump’s remarks were just oral and not carefully phrased (maybe deliberately so to give newsies an opportunity to distort and, thus, let Trump have some publicity), but he was basically correct:Luntz asserted that McCain was a “war hero” because of his hard time as a PoW.Trump basically said that McCain is regarded as a war hero because of his time as a PoW, but being a PoW is not sufficient to be a war hero — here Trump was correct.Finally Trump ended “perhaps he is a war hero”. Well, actually, McCain is a “war hero” because he has the medals to prove it, and at least one of his medals is from some of what he did as a PoW.But, in 100+ remarks on that Luntz-Trump exchange, not once have I seen a newsie report that deserves a grade of higher than F. Instead, newsies are just determined, feet locked in reinforced concrete, to not, Not, NOT actually report at common high school term paper writing standards. So, newsies distort, deceive, etc. It’s disgusting and very harmful for our country. But, apparently such disgusting, destructive behavior is just what the newsies do.One of the hopes I’ve had for my startup is to let people find (discovery) news sources, likely now small and poorly known, that are good instead of the usual mainstream media toxic sewage.Trump, for whatever reasons, is pushing back against the “disgusting” newsies — terrific!Free Campaign?And it may be that the $55 million or so he spent on his primary campaign cost him, net, nothing because the Trump Organization may have already increased its earnings by that much due to the campaign publicity. And if the earnings increase continues for at least a few more years, then his $55 million will have gotten a nice return on investment.Summary on Being a Public PersonSo, net, Trump is good at being a public person.But, IIRC, he carries a pistol, wears a bullet proof vest, has added extra security to Trump Tower, and has a lot to lose.Net, being a public person can be expensive, and only a few people are good at it.

  38. Stuart Willson

    The corollary, which is reflected in a couple comments below, is not to be a hater. Ever. It’s a mark of insecurity and read is as such by any reasonable person.

  39. Lawrence Brass

    I would say ignore critics, unless they are organized in a choir.

  40. Sean Hull

    Well said.

  41. Julian

    I guess what goes for a startup’s product, goes for personal life too: It’s better to be loved by 100 people than to be liked by a 1000. The first group gets you through everything that life throws at you, the second group leaves the moment it ain’t all fun & games anymore.We’ve never met, but on the outset of things it seems you have both 😉 so you’re covered!

  42. cavepainting

    Holding hatred or revenge in your heart is like drinking poison while under the illusion that you are feeding it to some one else.

  43. riemannzeta

    “It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting.” – Epictetus

  44. awaldstein

    She is authentic, down home, believable and touching on something.There will be a figure like this to the tech world which I think sorely needs to get beyond its ‘do what you love’ WeWorks bumpersticker slogans.

  45. Anne Libby

    If you haven’t heard the OnBeing interview with Brown, you might like it.…And why is having a “figure” important to you?(D’oh, asking a question and dashing off for the day. Have a good one.)

  46. awaldstein

    having a person behind every idea that you shape your life around is simply both human nature and core to the importance of the message.

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  48. JLM

    .Plus Bezos is a pimp dog (technical term). He buys the Washington Post and then hires 20 investigative snoops to work the Donald’s shady background.Unfair criticism?If he were a fair guy, he’d have hired 20 to investigate Hillary, in addition.Talk about some low hanging fruit? Wonderful Donald and Corrupt Hillary. Way too easy.But, then, you already knew that, didn’t you?JLMwww.themusingsofthebigredca…